Everything is going well. You’ve been working hard, and staying focussed. Now you’re on track for your latest goal… Suddenly you find yourself doing or saying something that completely ruins your chances of hitting your target…
You shake your head in amazement and frustration with yourself – why did you do that? Why did you sabotage yourself again?
You are not in control of your mind
One of the most common reasons that people fail to reach their goals is that they sabotage themselves. Self sabotage usually happens when you are trying to do something that is outside your normal comfort zone. It is almost as if your unconscious mind is using it’s power to pull you back into your comfort zone.
Your mind power is so great that it can completely determine your success in anything that you try.
Self sabotage can be caused when what you are trying to achieve or do contradicts some deeply entrenched conditioning. The subconscious mind will take control and find a way to make sure that your previous conditioning will win out. You may not want this to happen, but you are powerless to stop it.
A good example is lottery winners who end up blowing all their money. They bought a lottery ticket to get rich. The prize money they win is vastly more money than they are conditioned to and they are now outside their well established financial comfort zone. Their subconscious mind finds a way to return them to the financial level that they have been conditioned to – usually pretty quickly!
Use your mind power to overcome self sabotage
You’ve probably got the message by now that self sabotage is bad. The question is: can you overcome your past conditioning and stop self sabotage by using your mind power?
The answer is yes you can – but it might take some effort! Here are some hints to help you.
Be aware of self sabotage. You may be sabotaging yourself without even knowing it. Awareness of self sabotage can be very helpful. When you find you are repeatedly failing to achieve something that is really important to you, think about what happened. Did you sabotage yourself?
Exorcise the demon that is driving you. Some aspect of your mind power is driving you to this behaviour. Think about what you do to sabotage yourself and why you do it. Something as simple as knowing the past conditioning that is driving you can help to diminish its hold on you.
If knowing about your past conditioning is not enough, you may need to take action to work on eradicating it.
Focus on the benefits of achieving your goal. Filling your mind with the benefits that you are going to enjoy when you achieve your goal will create an army of positive thoughts that can overwhelm the negative conditioning that is causing you to sabotage yourself.
Don’t beat yourself up. OK you messed up again, and you did it to your self for no good, logical reason. But it’s happened and there’s nothing you can do to change the past. Don’t waste energy beating yourself up. Instead strengthen your resolve to lay this demon to rest for ever.
Self sabotage one of the most common reasons why people fail to get out of their comfort zones and achieve their life dreams. Knowing about self sabotage and taking positive action to eliminate it will help you to avoid this major pitfall.
By Kevin John