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8 Amazing Ways To Make A Woman Laugh June 30, 2007

Filed under: Tips — sarah @ 7:37 am

There are many men that want to make a woman laugh when they are around each other. This is a good way to make things more comfortable and to ease the tension between yourself and the woman you like. This will help both of you feel good in each other’s company and it will make it easier to be around each other.

Be sure that you are being a little silly and giving your best when it comes to making them laugh. If you can learn how to make a woman laugh, you will be able to make friends with more women!

1. Jokes are a great choice to make a woman laugh.

This is a good second way to make a woman smile. You should think about the jokes that you are telling them. Be careful and do not go over board with the jokes that you tell. You want to be careful because you do not want to offend your girl.

2. Be you.

You will be surprised at what you can do with your own personality. Do not be afraid to be whom you are and you will be surprised at what will happen. You should not be afraid to do the things that you always do. You want to feel comfortable and be who you are with each other. You will be amazed at the fun that you will have because you are going to be able to express who you are and not worry about hiding anything from her. The laughs are sure to come when can feel comfortable with you and who you are.

3. Make things a little brighter when you are around each other.

Making the woman laugh can make the entire atmosphere a lot better for the both of you to be around. You will want to make them laugh about the things that you do. This is a very easy conversation that you can come up with so that you are making her laugh at you and the things that you do.

4. You can joke about a movie or television show that is on.

When you are watching a movie together, you can make the mood a little lighter if you make a joke about the characters or something on the screen. This is something that is easy to do and you will be able to make them laugh and feel good about being around you. This is a sure fire way to make the mood a little lighter and to get things rolling along.

5. You may want to try and tell a joke about life.

If you have made a mistake in life or done something that you think is silly, you can use this as a topic to make a joke about. It is not always a good idea to make you the blunt of the joke. You may want to keep it light and do not focal too much on the bad. Just pick something small and use this to make a great joke about what you did.

6. Do not make it a point to talk about someone else.

If there is something funny about someone or what they did, you can use this as a joke but you should not put too much attention on it. You do not want to make someone else look bad because this can make you look like a bad person and this is not the way that you want to make them laugh at all.

7. Do a funny dance or something that involves physical activity.

You should do something that makes you look good but will bring a smile to a woman’s face. This can be anything that you want as long as you do not hurt yourself or someone else. You can dance or jump around and do funny faces to make them laugh. This will show your personality and make a woman see whom you are inside and out.

8. Have a great time.

This is the one piece of advice that you can use for any woman and any reason. You should take the time to make every moment last. You want to make the woman feel like they are comfortable with you so that they can laugh with you and have good time like you have intended for them. You will see how fast she gets to be comfortable with you and how she will laugh at all the things that you want her to

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Anger Management June 29, 2007

Filed under: Life — sarah @ 8:22 am

Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary for our survival. On the other hand, we obviously can’t lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us. So expressing your angry feelings in an assertive, not aggressive manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met without hurting others. Being assertive doesn’t mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others.

The goal of any type of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physical arousal that anger causes. While you can’t always change the situations or people that upset you, you can learn to control your reactions. Here are some great tools to try:

1. Relaxation – simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings. Books such as The Relaxation Response by Herbert Benson and Full Catastrophe Living by Jon Kabatt-Zinn are excellent sources for instruction in meditation and relaxation. Once you learn the techniques, you can use them in anywhere to quickly calm down.

For additional help with relaxation, practice breathing deeply from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest doesn’t tend to elicit nearly as deep a sensation of relaxation. Picture your breath coming up from your diaphragm while you slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as “relax,” “take it easy.” Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply and putting attention on your breath. Use imagery: visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination, with as many senses involved in the visualization as possible. Hatha yoga is also a great method for relaxing your muscles and making you feel much calmer.

2. Change Your Thoughts – Angry people tend to think negative, critical thoughts about themselves or others. When you’re angry, your thinking can get very exaggerated, overly dramatic and irrational. Try replacing these thoughts with more positive and rational ones. Remind yourself that getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won’t make you feel better (and may actually make you feel worse). Also, when angry, people often feel victimized. So it’s helpful to reflect on what’s happening and take responsibility for whatever you are doing to partially create the situation that frustrates you.

3. Communicate Directly After you Calm Down – when angry, people make assumptions that may not be true about others’ intentions. So slow down, calm down, and speak clearly about whatever it is that is frustrating you to the person(s) involved. Talk about your feelings and perceptions rather than blaming others. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.

4. Take Time for Yourself – make sure you have some “personal time” scheduled for times of the day or days of the week that you know are particularly stressful. One example is the woman who has a standing rule that when she comes home from work, for the first 15 minutes “nobody talks to me unless the house is on fire.” After this brief quiet time, she feels better prepared to handle demands from her kids and husband without yelling at them.

Anger is an expression of our life force. When manifest in an appropriate manner, it can be an intelligent expression and reaction to the circumstances of our lives. When we befriend our anger, we tame its impulsive expression and give ourselves a valuable tool to create constructive change for ourselves and the world. We encourage you to start wherever you are, with compassion and love for all parts of yourself, and begin to explore your own relationship with this powerful and necessary life energy. And be honest with yourself in the process: if you cannot understand this energy, if it feels like a wild beast or a scary monster, seek out help from those who can guide your journey of healing and discovery in a safe and constructive manner.

 

Forgiveness June 28, 2007

Filed under: Life — sarah @ 10:17 am

1. Understand that forgiving does not mean forgetting, or giving permission for the behavior to be repeated. It does not mean saying that what was done was acceptable. Forgiveness is often needed for behaviors that were not acceptable and that you should not allow to be repeated.

2. Recognize that YOU are the only one who is being hurt by your non-forgiveness. You feel the anger, the tightness in your stomach. You are the one rehearsing in your mind what you would like to say or do to ‘punish’ them. When there is no forgiveness, the bitterness lingers — and when you could be enjoying today’s pleasures, you are upsetting yourself with yesterday’s injustices. You give control of your emotions to the person who hurt you. It’s been said that the best revenge is your own calmness.

3. Make a list of what specific actions you need to forgive. What was actually done that caused your pain?

4. Acknowledge your part in each of the items on your list. Did you stay when you could or should have left? Did you draw this energy to you in some manner? If so, then you, too, have some responsibility. Seeing this lets you move away from a pure victim stance.

5. Realize that the other person(s) did the best that they could have done. Why did the person hurt us? They like you are an imperfect human being. Instead of thinking that you would never do such an offense, realize that if you had been that person (with his or her karmic situation), you could have done exactly the same thing. The incident was not about you; it was about the wrongdoer’s misguided attempt to meet his or her own needs.

6. Realize the futility of “grudges.” Sometimes we hold a grudge as if that would punish the person, but it rarely has that effect. Nor does it assure that he or she will behave considerately in the future. Many persons actually prefer holding on to resentments because of the hidden “fringe benefits” or payoffs. Examine what your possible pay-offs may be in playing the victim or martyr roles.

7. Acknowledge to yourself in writing or out loud what you have ever gained from the relationship with the person(s) who hurt you.

8. Center yourself, and verbally forgive yourself first for anything you might have done, on any level, to contribute to this hurt and resentment. You might say, “I completely forgive myself for anything I have done to contribute to _____.”

9. In a similar manner, express forgiveness for the hurts on your list, one by one. Allow yourself to experience the full range of feelings that emerge.

10. It may also be helpful to create a ceremony in which you get rid of your resentments, symbolizing the ending of the link between you. You may choose to visualize placing them on a raft and watching it drift gently away down a river. You may prefer to burn them and scatter the ashes of your resentment list.

11. Visualize the person you are forgiving being blessed by your forgiveness and, as a result, being freed from continuing the behavior that hurt you.

 

Do You Want a Beautiful Life? June 27, 2007

Filed under: Life — sarah @ 10:11 am

Your life is more than days and years. It is what you do with your time and how closely your choices match your values. It is how you maximize the possibilities that cross your path.

Life is full of surprises. Sometimes it can be confusing, messy, and discouraging. What seems to be a rock in your path may end up being a stepping stone to something important. You may look for shortcuts to tomorrow and not find any. Even so, it is still possible to find your way to a beautiful life.

“Beautiful” can mean different things to different people. Webster’s dictionary defines it as “having beauty; very pleasing and satisfying to the senses, eye, ear, and mind.” When it comes to applying “beautiful” to your life, begin by assuming that your basic needs for food, water, shelter, and physical and financial security are met.

Next, visualize what your beautiful life looks like. To do this, you need to know where you are going as well as where you have been. Make the picture of your beautiful life in color; it makes it more enticing. Make it large to make it more compelling.

Then, focus on your emotional and mental well-being. Get in touch with your purpose for being here. Your purpose grounds you and keeps you moving forward. If you feel lost, people who love you will find you.

In addition, to make a beautiful life which you deserve:

1. Love yourself. This means enjoying your own company and making peace with who you are at this moment in time.
2. Make time for yourself so that you can listen with your heart for your purpose in life.
3. Think positively and be happy. Remember, mistakes are opportunities to learn.
4. Put effort into things important to you; try. Be willing to stretch yourself and move outside your comfort zone once in a while.
5. Learn to be accepting and flexible when you cannot alter or avoid a situation to decrease your stress level. There is a saying, “When you don’t have what you want, try wanting what you have.”

If you want a challenge and to stretch yourself, add two more ideas to this list that you know would make your life beautiful. This will make the list more uniquely yours. Then, choose one of these ideas. Begin to focus on it until you feel it is a part of who you really are. Continuing to take one idea at a time from your list, you can move forward whenever you feel you are ready.

Having a beautiful life is not about having a perfect life or all the material things you want in your life. It is much deeper than that. It has to do with knowing what is important to you and being able to take action in a positive way. You have control over the choices you make. Your feelings about yourself and your life depend on your choices. Choose wisely.

By: Maurine Patten

 

What’s Missing In Your Life? June 26, 2007

Filed under: Life — sarah @ 7:21 am

No matter what you do, you will never be truly happy until you are living your purpose. The good news is…your purpose can be anything you say it is. That sure takes the pressure off.

How are you using your natural talents?

Do you even know what your natural talents are? Most people don’t. Perhaps they know their talents but don’t use them. When you don’t use your natural talents you are not living your life purpose.

Why it is important to know and live your purpose.

1. You will never be truly happy until you are doing what you love.

The world is waking up to the need for spiritual connection. This is not just happening to you or me. People all over the world are feeling it. The phenomenal response to the film, The Secret, is just one example of the large number people desperately searching for meaning and purpose. The Law of Attraction is creating amazing results in peoples lives just by becoming aware of it and practicing the principles.

Your search for meaning has a lot to do with your mission and life purpose. Your purpose is what excites you. It gives you meaning. It brings you the greatest sense of happiness and joy. It’s that very deep inner sense of joy that you only feel when you are doing something that you truly love to do.

You will not find true happiness if you’re working because you “need the money”. You will find it when you’re working because you love what you do. Until then, you will always feel there is something missing in your life. Always.

No amount of material trappings will ever fill the void. Once you get one thing you will search for something else thinking that will make you happy. It won’t. You will feel that vague sense of emptiness that you can only fill by feeding your soul.

I speak from experience because for too many years, I was feeding my hunger with material things but my soul was starving. I learned an important lesson, which leads to the second reason why it is so important that you know and live your purpose.

2. The world is waiting for you to use your natural talents.

Nothing you do will ever make you happy until you are giving the world the talents that you were born to give. It’s not about you. It’s about you contributing to the planet.

You were given your special talents for a very specific reason. There are people, creatures, or parts of the planet that are waiting only for you and they will not “get it” until you give it. Whether it is to write the book, to sing the song, to save the animals, nurture the earth, whatever “it” is, do it.

Think of a time when someone said or did something that changed your life or your whole way of thinking. It was so profound that you immediately got it! It could have been something you’ve heard or read many times before but it was how this person said it or wrote it, or did it that resonated with you. Only that person could have done it for you.

People are waiting for you to say or do just the right thing so they will get what they need. That is your responsibility. You dying with your song or book still inside of you is irresponsible to yourself and to the people who are counting on you.

Yes, it can be scary at first but do it anyway. Trust that you will be 100% supported by the Universe. The old saying “Jump and you will find your wings on the way down” is true. But you won’t know that until you actually take the leap.

You will feel peace and calm that some people cannot imagine. You will have a deep inner knowing that you are being taken care of and that absolutely everything you ever want or need is available to you.

It is available to you and anyone else who wants it. Every one of us was born with the same opportunity to express our talents and genius in a way that is unique to us. Some choose to take advantage of it and others don’t.

I’ll leave you with a final quote. “That which is in you and expressed will set you free. That which is in you and not expressed will eat you from the inside.” Author unknown.

Aim High!

By  Lavera J. Gaston

 

Twenty Good Luck Quotes June 25, 2007

Filed under: Quotes — sarah @ 10:55 am

Why good luck quotes? Perhaps you don’t believe in luck, but you can see that some people have more good things happen to them. Whether you choose to call that luck or not, here is what some famous people have to say about the phenomenon.

Those who have succeeded at anything and don’t mention luck are kidding themselves. – Larry King

Luck is believing you’re lucky. – Tennessee Williams

Everything in life is luck. – Donald Trump

I am a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it. – Thomas Jefferson

We must believe in luck. For how else can we explain the success of those we don’t like? – Jean Cocteau

When I work fourteen hours a day, seven days a week, I get lucky. – Dr. Armand Hammer

The winds and waves are always on the side of the ablest navigators. – Edward Gibbon

The day You decide to do it is your lucky day. – Japanese Proverb

Luck is when opportunity knocks and you answer. – Author Unknown

Be where the luck is. – Steven Scott

Each misfortune you encounter will carry in it the seed of tomorrow’s good luck. – Og Mandino

Men of action are favored by the Goddess of luck. – George S. Clason

In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity. – Albert Einstein

Opportunity is missed by most because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work. – Thomas Edison

If you view all the things that happen to you, both good and bad, as opportunities, then you operate out of a higher level of consciousness. – Les Brown

Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish. – John Quincy Adams

Small opportunities are often the beginning of great enterprises. – Demosthenes

If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can’t, you’re right. – Henry Ford

Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. – Seneca

 

Goals: 10 Ways to Ensure Their Success June 22, 2007

Filed under: Life — sarah @ 9:26 am

We’re all too familiar with the fate of New Year’s resolutions. To keep your goals from dissolving the same way, use these commitment-building tips:

1 Make them bite-size.

All progress is achieved a step at a time. Even if your ultimate aim is lofty or challenging, you’re more likely to reach it if you set a series of goals that you believe are attainable within the time range you set for them. Creating a goal that seems within reach not only gives you more confidence, but takes away the temptation to abandon your goal with the excuse that it was too hard.

2 Keep them short-range.

To maintain a motivating sense of urgency, set goals that extend out no further than 90 days. Many people find 30-day goals are ideal. Break larger goals down into short-range segments if you need to. It’s easier to identify the steps you’ll take on a weekly basis when your end point is in sight.

3 Limit the number of goals you tackle at once.

Ideally, work on only one goal at a time so you can give it your full focus and energy. Sometimes you may be able to handle two or three items at once without excessively diluting your effectiveness, but make sure the goals are in harmony with each other and know ahead of time what priority you give to each. That way, if you have to make a decision where to put your time, you’ll know which one should come first and which one you can postpone until another time if necessary.

4 Use target dates instead of deadlines.

Give yourself a little flexibility with your end-point by thinking of it as a target date instead of a deadline. You’re less likely to give up if it looks like you won’t make it quite on time. Real life does happen, after all.

5 Power them up with why’s.

You probably already know that you have to write your goal on paper. Along with it, write your “because.” Identify the benefits you’ll get from achieveing your goal. Know what it’s going to do for you, what’s in it for you, and how you’re going to feel when you have accomplished it.

6 Energize them with a daily R & R.

Each morning, repeat your goals (and the benefits for each of them)—preferably out loud, and preferably in a specific chair you think of as you goal-review chair. Every time you repeat your goals, you strengthen your commitment to them.

Before you go to sleep each night, review your progress. What can you learn from what happened relative to your goal today? What could you have done more of, or better? What did you allow to get in your way or undermine you? What did you achieve? What strengths did you exercise in regard to your goal?

7 Enlist the power of your subconscious.

Try using affirmative questions to get your subconscious working on ways to help you succeed. To create an affirmative question, turn a normal affirmation into a “Why” question that you repeat. Your subconscious won’t be able to keep itself from finding answers for you. For example, you might take the affirmation, “I am easily sticking to my diet,” and turn it into the affirmative question, “Why am I finding it so easy to stick to my diet?” Try it! It’s a powerhouse technique.

8 Celebrate your progress.

When you take the actions you laid out for yourself on a daily basis, congratulate yourself. Reinforce your choice to act by reminding yourself what an exceptional person you are and let yourself feel the satisfaction of that. Only a small percentage of the population is self-directed enough to actively work toward genuine goals. You stand above the crowd.

9 Find an accountability partner.

Especially if you’re new to goal setting, or when you are working on an especially challenging goal, enlist a trusted friend who cares about you to check on your progress on a weekly basis and not to accept feeble excuses if you slack off. Support groups and master mind groups can be helpful, too. Knowing you have to tell somebody else how well you did spurs you to stay on track.

10 Allow your success to happen.

Let go of any feelings that try to tell you that you don’t deserve to reach your goal. You deserve it just because you had the courage to set it. And if you have an off-day, accept it and pick up where you left off the next morning. Remind yourself that you can, and will, achieve whatever you decide to achieve, because it’s your life and you get to decide what experiences you’ll enjoy.

By Susan K. Minarik