Why are most women attracted to those motorcycle types, dirty and grungy looking Lotharios that their mothers and fathers have told them to not be involved in?
Is it because of these men’s inherently good looks, scorching bad boy quality? Or is it a simple case of bad psychology: that women really do not know what’s good for them?
Believe it or not, there is a certain aura that bad boys exude that some women do find hopelessly irresistible.
It is so good to be bad. Or in this case, it is so good to be involved with someone bad. For one thing, there is the adventure. Either some find themselves in their own little thought-of movie or romantic novel that being together or being involved with a bad guy is just plain tempting.
The Bridget Jones saga, both the movie and book version, seem to echo these same sentiments. Why would a woman who already has her gentlemanly Darcy, still find something attractive from a devilish Cleaver? The latter is so mean and so manipulative. While the other is so straight up and sometimes, a bit uptight. So who should a confused woman choose?
Basically, it is – sort of – a fact. Women love the little bad things found in men. Some do so because they love the drama. A relationship with bad men gets most women’s juices up and flowing. A date with them is unpredictable. One minute they may be out on a nice cozy dinner, the next minute they may be in a dark street corner making out. Meanwhile, a date with a straight-up men could be nice, simple, conventional and unsurprising. What follows after a quiet dinner may be a talk, and then some more talk, and a walk. Comfortable, safe and sometimes it might even be romantic. Although some do find such a scenario boring.
Sometimes, a date or a relationship with all the badness found in men is a great topic for a conversation for women the next day. Women love nitpicking every gory detail about their bad, bad men. How they have been bad, etc. However, women also enjoy talking about how their men has been good, in bed that is.
Sometimes, boys that are bad or those who have been bad are referred to as being a wolf, or being a fox. There may be a reason for this term. Both animals are predators. Women should not tread such dark waters, but sometimes they do. Believe it or not, it is the sexual opportunity and excitement that brings women or at least magnetizes them into the waiting arms of a manly predator.
Let us face it. Predators, or rather, men, could also sometimes be charming, if not handsome. No wonder it is so conveniently easy to simply fall head over heels over them. Plus, there is that dream fantasy of most females that they alone have this amazing and almost god-like quality to be able to change for the better all the bad men in their lives.
Fortunately or unfortunately, bad men makes some women feel instantly sexy. This is a stark difference from the guys touted as good who sometimes discourage some of their women to be as goody-goody as they can possibly be.
However, there are certain facts that just cannot be disregarded. There really is, and there should really be no excuse for being bad. Some men are just plain insensitive and no amount of patience, hope, wishing and dreaming could cover up for his badness. Men who are like this – please, please do remember – is not and could possibly be not that sincerely in love with the women in their lives. Believe it or not, they may be more in love with themselves than in anyone else. Try, as much as possible, to not fall for his own professions of his love for you. Chances are, and there is a great chance of this happening, his I-love-you’s may be his way to get what he wants with you.
All in all, dating bad men is good only for that purpose alone – dating. Adventure, sexual or otherwise, is good for the short term. Long term relationships require mutual trust and respect, a little kinkiness also wouldn’t hurt at all.