There are often cues and signs that someone may be lying. There may also be understandable reasons for the lie.
1. Look for body language that might indicate someone is lying, such as not looking you in the eye when speaking to you, being fidgety, or acting nervous or uncomfortable.
2. Listen for inconsistencies in what the person tells you, such as different stories on different days, different time frames, mistakes in remembering details or mixing up details.
3. Notice if the person steadfastly resists answering any questions. Extreme defensiveness could mean that he or she is trying to hide something.
4. Notice if the person accuses you of lying or being deceitful when you really haven’t been. This could reflect the other person’s own underlying behavior, which he or she is projecting onto you rather than owning up to it.
5. Listen to your gut and intuition. You may just know someone is lying. If you are not sure, don’t jump to conclusions. Try to get some evidence to back up your hunch.
6. Consider asking directly if the person has lied to you. Many people feel bad getting caught up in lies, and find it a relief to finally be honest.
7. Try to be understanding and listen to the person’s reasons for lying. Was he trying not to hurt you? Was she afraid you would be angry, upset or disappointed?
8. Look at your possible role in having someone lie to you. Are you someone who gets so upset hearing the truth that others feel they can’t be honest with you?
You can usually tell if someone is lying by how nervous they get. This means they are afraid of being found out, and they know they’re guilty. Also, another sign of a liar is that they get angry and defensive. If they aren’t guilty, what is there to get upset about? Could it be that they have been found out?
When a person lies, their eyes are most likely to point down and to the left. It might be very slight, so you have to be attentive. As well, they may touch their face. If they are just telling a small white lie, they will touch their mouth, but if it is a bigger lie, they are more likely to touch under their eyebrow…